This post is a little different from my usual blogs. For one thing, I often use humor though I realize it is often hard to recognize. I find nothing funny about this subject however.
I work with domestic violence on a fairly regular basis in the Emergency Room. I have seen women that have been kicked so hard in the shin their leg was broken. I've of course seen all of the usual injuries, black eyes, busted teeth, bruised ribs, etc.
I talk with women who have been sexually asaulted. One of the tough parts of this is convincing them it is not their fault. I want to be clear for anyone with cute comments about mini skirts, women going to bars, women being out late by themselves, save it. Sexual assault is never a woman's fault.
These women are broken. Not their bodies but their minds and their spirits. The trick is getting their spirits to heal. Broken bones heal. The real injury is emotional.
I have no answers here. I have no solutions. I will go back to work next Tuesday and do this all over again. I just saw this advertisement and wanted to share it. It's a good commercial.
The only real answer is to do what we are trying to do with our own children, teach them about this. Our boys have always been brought up to respect women. Our daughter is being brought up to respect herself.
From what I see in my work, a lack of self esteem in the woman is one of the main ingredients in abuse. This of course is not in anyway meant to blame the woman. The point is that men who like to beat women choose their mates well. They certainly don't want someone who is going to fight back or leave.
The second part of prevention is to pay attention to your children. One thing that helps abusive men is lack of support for the women. If the woman has a family that is active with her, they are too much trouble for an abuser.
We intend to keep involved with our daughter and let her know we are as near as a phone call. Any time, day or night. I can say with absolute clarity that Hell on Earth awaits any man who strikes my daughter.
In the title I said few things piss me off more than this. What is the thing that makes me madder? Child abuse. I deal with this also. Don't even get me started.
Finally, I have one more video. This is Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. While I like them, their music may be a little heavy for some but they do a lot for domestic violence. I think maybe one of them grew up in this atmosphere. This is a great anti-abuse song and video. (note, the embed was removed, probably for copyright protection, the link should work though, it's a good video)