Monday, February 21, 2011

What Do You Think About This?

Florida Mom Forces Son to Wear Sign Announcing 1.22 GPA

Read the article.

What are your thoughts on this? Will this teach the kid a lesson? Is public humiliation the best parenting tactic?

14 comments:

Ticker said...

Kind of stupid over grades if you ask me. Maybe mom should wear one saying I gave birth to a dummy!

cube said...

It isn't something I'd do, but then again I don't have lazy cretin for a child. I think it may be too little too late.

cube said...

Of course, it has to be Tampa. I shudder when I think of what the rest of the country must think of us Tampons ;-)

Sam Huntington said...

There was a time in our history when societies depended upon public humiliation to help curb the decadent desires of their citizens. What eventually happened is that miscreants moved west and became bona fide hedonists, which explains how California evolved into its present state. I think humiliation might work for some people and under various circumstances, but I also agree with Cube … in this case, the die is cast.

This is what happens when parents (and school counselors) convince students that if they do not attend college, they will never amount to much. Gone are the days when people were allowed to choose their vocations; gone are the days when we valued mechanics, welders, electricians, plumbers, and carpenters … so we keep pushing these low performing kids along within a field of study for which they have no interest and then punish them further by making them wear stupid signs. Our entire education system should be carrying signs that read “stupid.”

Always On Watch said...

I don't know if this is the best tactic, but I understand the parents' frustration.

LASunsett said...

Evidently nothing else has worked. So, what the heck? Give it whirl.

BTW... off topic....have you seen a surge in norovirus in your ER?

My wife has it and the moment I knew she had it, I decided to do my own clinical trial and started drinking whiskey straight to kill anything that lived in my stomach. Since I drink very little anyway, I figured it was worth a try.

So far, so good. But it's only been a little over 24 hrs.....not sure of the incubation period on this one.

Z said...

LA SUNSETT...just DRINK, for goodness sake, you need an excuse? (smile) What's that virus, anyway? GOod luck and to your wife.

Cube...that's funny!

Chuck, this really is a dilemma for me. I think it is humiliating and I think most kids today could use a little more humiliation. I'm surprised that, with a mother who cares that much about his education, he didn't shape up long ago.
I think being slightly 'afraid' of one's parents is a good thing. If this helped him in that arena, good on her!!

Sam, I'm getting REALLY tired of the California slams, honestly. It never gets easy to read...I guess because I know so many solid Conservatives even here in Santa Monica! I'd take them better if any states were doing that much better than us, believe me.


So, Chuck, I have a hunch you don't approve of the sign..and I have a bigger hunch your kids are the farthest thing from kids needing this kind of discipline.

Phill Senters said...

I think the "Official" should butt out and let the parents figure it out. Unless there is physical abuse, of course. If the humiliation tactic doesn't work, they will keep trying others. Not all kids (or even grown-ups)react the same to any given stimulus.

Chuck said...

I don't agree with this tactic. I understand frustration with grades and kids that do not do as we want.

Degrading a kid though is not the answer, especially one this young. This little punishment could have long term consequences for him.

I am not condemning them for trying to get the kid to fly right but this seems way too far for me.

Chuck said...

Ticker, good point on mom

Cube, I think there are better ways to get his attention (Tampons, nice)

Sam, good point on the skilled trades people. Not everyone is going to make it in college. I think we need to consider do more with apprenticeships. This is a practice that I thought had merit

AOW, agreed

LA, we have not seen much of that. I do feel for her though, I got a retavirus once and it was not fun. We are just starting to see influenza, it is coming in late.

Z, I actually have one son that we struggle with. He is a good kid and I believe he is smart but we fight all of the time over homework and grades. I don't agree with this tactic though. We are not only trying to get him through school but also get him to adulthood. I can't help but think that this could do damage. We will just keep working with him and get him through some how. To some extent this tactic almost seems a little lazy. Sometimes being a parent requires patience and some heavy lifting.

Phil, I do agree that all kids react the same way but most kids are not going to react well to this.

Mustang said...

I saw this on the news and my reaction was that the mother was being inappropriately abusive. She was no Rhodes Scholar—and it is often the case that parents condemn the actions of their children when in fact it has been the parents who withheld from their children proper modeling. If she is not careful, she may push this young man too far and she may end up dead.

evilmomlady2003 said...

Bwahahaha!!! Good for this mom! As a parent of a 15 year old, I share this mom's frustration. I know that there are some that think this is too harsh, but when dealing with obstinance and indifference, one has to be creative. If the mom thought the kid was a moron and wasn't just lazy, humiliation would be pointless. She has delivered the resources. What's worse, making the kid suffer a little discomfort or dealing with the aftermath of a kid who consistently shirks his responsibility to himself. It's refreshing to see a mom placing the blame for an abysmal personal failure squarely on the shoulders of the failee - the kid. She isn't blaming the system or the school. I say God bless her. I bet her kid comes through this none the worse for the wear and probably makes something of himself. Good for her.

Brooke said...

It's a modern day dunce cap.

Someone actually reported this woman to CPS?!? I guess she should just throw her hands up and say 'eff it, and unleash a stupid young adult upon us with no skills or hope to make a living for himself or a family. Great. Just another criminal drain on society is inevitable!

It's not like the kid tries and just couldn't GET something and brought home a bad grade; this kid is CHOOSING to be a lazy bastard. He needs a hard kick in the pants, and shame is a tool seldom used in this PC self-esteem oriented society nowadays.

That psychiatrist is a moron, btw.

Chuck said...

Mustang, correct. Or push him away and not see him as an adult

Evil Mom and Brooke, I disagree. Mostly because the mother raised him. Where is her humiliation? This is really just an extension of the blameless society. Where is her responsibility for raising him to do better in school? Seems like 15 years old is a little late...